Where to find mature dating adults
“You’re less likely to date a younger guy who’s been divorced, has children or has sexual performance issues.” In 2011, she met Juan Cabrera, now 34, at one of her mixers and soon fell in love. “Millennial men are career-focused and want to travel with successful women and conquer the world together,” says Soletti, who notes she’s seen an uptick in established women signing up specifically to meet younger bucks at her speed-dating events.
Such May-December couplings are no longer seen as relationship outliers — or indicative of deep-seated mommy issues.
In my late 40s, I never thought I would turn to a "hook-up" app for romance. After my marriage of 12 years ended, I spent most of the past decade building a successful career that allowed me the time and flexibility I needed to raise my son and assembling a close-knit circle of friends.
Although my ex-husband and I co-parent our now 12-year old son, my son spends 75% of his time at my home.
I didn't and we dated for a few more months but parted ways once we determined we wanted different things from a relationship. We matched on Tinder and he immediately asked me to dinner.
“Younger guys tend to be more active, have less baggage,” says Soletti, an event planner who regularly hosts dating mixers.
I'm not sure if it's because older women are seen as more interesting or self-assured, or (as I suspect) because men watch too many X-rated films centered on the younger man/older woman trope. Another downside is that when I match with someone, we are freed from face-to-face communication, which isn't always good.
Many men act in ways I imagine they would if they were sitting across from me over dinner.
One man went from asking me about spelunking to suggesting we would make beautiful babies.
Needless to say, it was an abrupt shift in our conversation. They sit in my matches folder like unexplored potential. Maybe we'd have great chemistry – if only one of us made the next move. I'm usually called away by mothering, chores, and paid work.